so you want to be like a clone? yea, way to be original there OP. And btw females need 25,000 calories a day what your doing is a crash diet, and will make you feel miserable. Your going to end up sterile because you don't have any fat. And why can't you be nice and respectful now? you have to be pretty to be that way? to me you sound like a ugly ass
I hope you mean 2,500. Twenty-five thousand calories is a very very large number!
whoops 0.0 yea i meant 2,500 XD
Females are supposed to eat between 1750 (a child's one, for those under 5feet) and 2000 (the right one for females). 2500 is for strong built men or for women who train for sports competitions.
"...when I get there, I'll treat people with respect and kindness"
You're failing at that already. Clones, OP? Better quit while you're ahead, because it looks like you're ending up like those people you're insulting. It doesn't matter if you're respectful and kind selectively.
Yep, that's healthy.
There's a reason you are ALWAYS encouraged to talk to your physician before embarking on any kind of weight loss program. I suggest you do that. They can not only confirm that your plan is healthy/unhealthy, but can also help you build one that will work the best for you.
I sound like an infomercial.
Anyway, beyond that, you're kind of a judgmental twit. So you have NEVER met anyone who was pretty and nice? Or did you just assume they were mean because they had something you didn't?
And you are calling them 'clones' now? Wow, what did they do to you? So...are you going to get pretty and then just be nice to people who you judge to be ugly? That sounds pretty messed up. Or are you going to be nice to the pretty people too, whilst in your mind just thinking how mean and clone-like they are? What a fake friend you must be.
Careful, if you cut your calories too low like that, your body will go into starvation mode and will retain anything it can, not to mention your brain and basic bodily functions needing more energy than that. Consult a nutritionist, or at least a website based on actual health and not just being thinner than death.
Your secret is also very confusing. It's like you're trying to justify your sounding extreme diet by saying "but I'll be nice to people!." Can't you be nice to people now while keeping yourself healthy? It sounds like there's more going on here and you're just making excuses to keep yourself from having to face it. Good luck, I hope you can stay healthy and get to the point where you are happy with your body-image and can still be nice to people.
I found a thinspiration site last night and the OP there showed she only had 300-ish calories a day.
I wish I could do that.
You should probably avoid thinspiration sites. They aren't very healthy people and give bad advice. 300 calories would send you into starvation mode and slow your metabolism so that 300 calories you do eat? Automatically gets made into fat. Eating frequent, little meals is better for you since it speeds up your metabolism, provided you're eating enough.
8[ Why would it be turned into fat? That's not even fair. Your body doesn't even kill fat, it kills protein like your heart and muscles. I think human bodies are just trolls that want people to be fat.
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You sound like you're a beautiful person inside for wanting to show people that you care, but you don't have to starve yourself to do that.
So basically, you are going to starve yourself and ruin your health to prove a point that has already been proven. Wow. Real mature.
That's messed up and pointless.
If you skip meals you're going to end up gaining weight in the long run.
You NEED to eat *at least* 1,500 calories with all of the exercise you'll be doing, otherwise you'll put your body into starvation mode and you'll gain fat, rather than lose it.
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That doesn't even sound like it makes sense. If she expends more calories than she takes in, she should lose weight. If she doesn't, then there's pretty much no hope for anybody trying to lose weight, right?
If you starve, then suddenly start eating again, or even more than you already intake, you'll gain really fast. From not eating very much, your metabolism will slow down as you don't really need it for only 500 cal. a day.
If OP were to randomly start eating normal again, it will boost her weight gain a ton.
I used to chew on my Barbies, mostly their feet. I have tons of Barbies missing feet now, which is okay, because I lost all the shoes anyway.
I chewed a Ken's foot off in nine seconds flat (counted) and realized I had a problem. I haven't chewed a doll's foot off since. :D I'm a little bit proud of myself~ Now I just buy packs of mechanical pencils and chew on the grips.
I used to wrap my barbies in toilet paper and then hang them.
It's no big deal, kids do weird stuff.
Colouring is normal.
That's okay. I can always describe various, elaborate forms of torture to my friends in bloody, morbid detail. It really creeps them out. ^_^ You're not alone, hahaha
But um...I'm getting the feeling you don't still do it. So uhh....I guess I'm the crazy one. Not you.
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I could too. I can make up perfect kidnapping and murder plans. I'm with you. You're not alone.
I had a cousin who would discuss in morbid detail exactly how she was going to torture and eventually murder her dolls. She turned out fine. Kids do strange things sometimes.
totally reminds me of the beginning of the movie 'the butterfly effect'
Possessed color-changing paper? Ooh, creepy.
This actually made me laugh for like five minutes. Thank you.
You're welcome. *curtsy*
No, you aren't.
What exactly did you expect your mum to do? Send you to a psychiatrist? Didn't you just say you weren't crazy, though?
Many children do what you did; nothing unusual about that. However, if you went around telling people at school that you stabbed your dollies with butter knives, they might pick on you and call you a freak. Your mother obviously didn't want that to happen to you.
I've been dating someone for the last eight months, and we've yet to kiss. Maybe it's because I can never stop smiling when I'm with him, who knows; but the absence of one way of showing affection doesn't need to define a relationship, it's those smiles and that shared happiness that will make her feel important, trust me. A big, honest smile means just as much as a kiss, without some of that riskiness that can make it scary.
Talk to her and if you cant't tell her(for reasons)ask her friend to tell her.
The next time she asks, tell her what you've just told all of us.
Then talk to her about it. It's okay to be nervous. I was nervous the first time my guy and I kissed. It was slightly awkward, but it was still nice and right as it happened, the awkwardness went away. It's totally okay for it to be awkward the first time. Once you get over the awkwardness of the first kiss, it gets easier. I hope that made sense.
Tell her. Don't post it on here. If you really don't want to tell her, make sure you still make her feel special.
Just take your time. It'll happen when it happens.
Okay, I'm going to sound like some stupid kid here, but I've never kissed my boyfriend, and our 10 month anniversary is in a week. And I'm not saying that's going to work in any other case, but for me it just does. And yeah, your girlfriend may not be like that at all, but it's always a possibility. Not that you want to never kiss her, but still.
I once read a story about a girl, who one her first kiss, accidentally smiled and the guy kissed her teeth.
Not helping, but this just reminded me of it.
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That's how it was with my ex-boyfriend, he was scared to kiss me. Just take your time and if she really cares, she'l wait until you are ready to kiss her. Don't worry, you have a right to be nervous, I was too when I first kissed someone. Just please take your time and don't rush. Wait until you are ready. :)
You could take your sweet time and not kiss her until you think you're ready... and risk making your girlfriend feel a bit neglected. On the other hand you could just... do it. Just seize her and kiss her, quickly. If it's quick, there'll be less margin for error. Plus it's not that hard. Grow a pair, come on.
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Okay, so, I understand that you must be nervous about kissing your girlfriend and everything, but really, if you don't kiss her soon, she might think that there's something wrong with her-or you-or your relationship, and you.don't.want.that. Anyways, you want to kiss her, she wants to kiss you, JUST GO FOR IT!
Who knows if you'll do it wrong? How will you know if you don't try, eh?
Just go for it, before it's too late, okay?
I mean, just do it.
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When are you supposed to kiss somebody for the first time? I always thought you were supposed to wait until the third date to french kiss somebody. Or are you supposed to do that from like, the first day you started dating or at the end of the first week, or...?
Just when you feel comfortable and it feels right. There aren't any rules.
There aren't? I always thought there were. There's like, "if your friend likes somebody, you can't date them" or "you can't date your friend's ex". Or confusing ones like "If you break up with somebody you can't be friends".
Most of those are made up by the type of girls who post secrets on here. Date who you want and be friends with who you want and do things when you (and the person you are dating) are comfortable doing them.
:) Wow. I wish the rest of the world did that too, that sounds a lot less hard to follow.
I think that is a very normal fear. My boyfriend really wanted to kiss me, but I'd been so afraid of messing it up because it was my first kiss. He kissed me goodnight one night and I was so surprised I didn't even have time to worry about screwing it up... it just happened, and it was perfect! Try to just relax, and I'm sure it'll go fine:)
Now you're inventing a phobia. And I thought people couldn't get more dramatic.
There is almost literally a phobia for EVERYTHING. Do some research before you call someone 'dramatic". Atychiphobia: The fear of failure or messing up.
Not to be nit picky, but that's not a phobia. So....yeah.
Yeah it is. It's more simply the fear of failure: Atychiphobia. Try looking this stuff up before you tell someone it's not real.
Not applicable in this sense.
Atychiphobia---much like any phobia---is the IRRATIONAL fear of failure. In this case, it's quite rational to worry about messing up your first kiss. Attributing that anxiety to some random phobia because it makes you feel speshul is insulting to people who end up locked in their houses to avoid failing at anything.
Any basic fear is NOT a phobia. I didn't mean that what they described couldn't be classified as one easily, what I meant was what they are experiencing doesn't fit a phobia AT ALL.
Talk to her. I feel as if 90% of the secrets posted about couples could be resolved by a simple conversation. If you guys are dating there must be at least some amount of trust and liking each other.
I am only pre-diabetic but my parents make me eat as if I were full blown diabetic and honestly it does suck in that aspect. I am a recovering annorexic and bulimic and because I too have to eat regularly to stop from getting the shakes or passing out, it is keeping me from my dream body (the same one as the OP's). To all of you here who are pointing out that being skin and bone is gross, please realize that to a girl who has never seen what her ribs look like and whose thighs have always touched and who gets her cheeks pinched because they are "soooo cute and chubby", a stick like figure would be a blessing. OP I feel for you and while I am glad that you are staying alive, I am sorry that you are not able to look how you want to. I just want you to know that you are beautiful to me and to please keep smiling because you will win the heart of a guy who will love you just the way you are.
I've never seen any of those things, and I wouldn't want to be a stick....
Just my opinion though. :]
*edit* Actually, the thighs part is untrue. It doesn't really matter, but it bothered me not to change my comment.
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Spoiler Alert: Flesh and bone isn't attractive.
*Now I need Violet's profile picture to make the statement complete*
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I don't think being skeletal is any more attractive than being overweight...
I'm a type one diabetic. I was underweight when I took shots. But you definitely aren't ugly. It doesn't have to define who you are as a person. And if someone has told you that diabetes makes you ugly, karma will whoop their ass soon enough.
>:c My sister is a type-one diabetic and she's a perfect weight for her age. She isn't even overweight (doctor says so). She's not UGLY and you can't even see where the needles go in her skin.
Stop being a bitch, type one diabetics AREN'T ugly.
She never said type one diabetics are ugly. Maybe she's overweight, and it's too late to fix it, and now she can't be skinny. Don't assume random things.
It's not too late to fix it healthily..in fact it's better for someone with diabetes to be a healthy weight. However starving yourself to look emaciated and have all your bone showing will definitely mess with your blood sugar levels.
"Too late to fix it"? My Aunt Dawnie has Type 1 diabetes as well, and she's lost over 120 pounds (she had a weight problem for most of her life). It's never too late to lose weight.
She said "It's so sad I have to inject needles in my skin every day to stay alive." in a secret about being pretty. She says it as if using the itty bitty tee-iny insulin needles are ruining her "pretty" skin, or as if regulating her glucose makes her fat.
Even if it WAS assumed, it's not too far of a stretch. OP sounds vapid enough to be somebody who'd say "diabetics are ugly".
having a meat on your bone is beautiful. Honestly, if your bones show a lot, guys find it a turn off. Being healthy is beautiful. <3 You are beautiful just the way you are.
Seeing bones ain't pretty. At least, in my opinion.
If being pretty is that important to you, you must be very shallow.
Some people need to feel pretty to feel like they are worth anything. Those of us who have always been overweight and always been teased for it and always have had to look at the skinny people around us and how happy they are, are the ones that wish to be pretty like that. Not many people give the fat girl a second glance unless it is to point a finger and laugh, this I am all too familiar with. So is it really that bad to want to feel pretty?
Those who feel worthless unless the are pretty, are shallow. While it's okay to have some insecurities about your looks, it usually takes much more than attractiveness to be happy. If beauty is all you need for happiness and confidence, then yes, you are shallow.
What do you think is worse? Feeling the need to starve yourself so you think you are beautiful or teasing someone so much to make them think they aren't beautiful in the first place?
I know just how the OP feels. I was teased so much from preschool to now which I am in year 11 for being fat. Which I know I am an average weight but I keep thinking "If I just loose a little bit of weight they will stop, that the voices in my head telling me I'm fat will stop. I want so bad to be able to starve myself but I can't because if I don't eat every few hours I get the shakes and pass out. I however am not diagnosed with diabetes because my mother refuses to take me.
If I am shallow for wanting them to stop and for the voices to stop, then yes I am fucking shallow.
Glad we came to an agreement. :/
I don't think you are shallow. Some people just simply don't understand what it is like to not be able to control the thought of wanting to be skinny. Stay beautiful darling.
Sorry but I just have to say this. Do you really think the teasing is going to stop just because you lost a whole bunch of weight? I honestly don't. In fact, I'm sure that if they stop teasing you about that, then they will just move onto something else. It may be your hair, your nose, your waist, or your toes. They will find something to make your life a little more shitty. Why? Because they need someone to tease. Which is why I think you should stop doing all this stuff to stop the teasing and instead do something to better yourself.
But, whatever. At the end of the day, its your choice and your life.
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1. Healthy is beautiful. That crap you're striving for is just gross.
2. Stop whining about your Diabetes. It could be far worse.
I understand what you're feeling,( i'm type 1 as well) but maybe to help you stop this problem of yours you can eat heathy foods to bring your blood sugar up (fruits veggies etc)
Yes, it is so sad that you have to stay alive by being ugly. My heart cries out for you.
One of my best friends is type one diabetic. She has a pump, and no real weight problem. =/
She also doesn't revolve her damn life around it. She's a whole person, who just happens to need to check her blood sugar. It's not a pity party every time I'm around her. If it were, I would stop giving a damn. You sound obnoxious to be around, and like you think your disease is the only reason your life isn't perfect. Get over it. Everyone has problems.
first of all, you don't need to be super skinny to be pretty.
second, you don't need to be pretty to be happy.
third, the first part of this 'secret' has absolutely nothing to do with the last line, so WTF?!
last, this. is. not. a. motherf*cking. secret.
my mom is type one diabetic she injects needles in her body all the time and she is a big woman but that dosnt mean she isnt beatifull, its your personality that makes you beatifull not how you look
its so sad how i ran out of fucks to give for this 'secret'
You don't know this person of what they're going through so I wouldn't be like that. You might not care but I bet this person now feels even worse...
because of a comment on the internet? oh and i think the word your looking for is *or. And i really don't to kiss you...i'll pass on that.
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People speak their mind on the internet; OP shouldn't expect any different.
For fuck sake, here she goes again.
Holy shit, seriously people?
Yes there are people who have it worse, but that doesn't mean OP should be swept under the rug and left to deal with it herself / himself.
The point isn't to compare people's problems, it's to support them.
"Unlike others, I am alone for real."
This comment irritates me so much that I can't even feel bad for you.
Assuming you are not alone. There are almost 7 billion people walking the earth with you. Nobody is alone.
Whoa. Is your little brother not a person? Because if you're hiding some Martian in your house...
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E.T phone home
*flies on bike*
I've got nothin'. I haven't seen ET since I was four years old.
And anyway, WTF Spartz? Y U NO HAVE COMMENT SECTION?! This damn site has so many problems. Hopefully we can comment again by Monday. Or Sunday.
I understand where you are coming from. It's just my mom and I living in this big house because my brother and sister are off in college. What I did was join sports and after school activities! When the sports are done I had friends from the sports that I would invite over!
Get a life.
It says she asked to go out, but her mother laughed in her face and went out to go drinking. She's TRYING.
obviously you don't see the sarcasm in the comment....
Oop. HEH. <8D I'm...I'm kind of bad at that. Sorry.
Stop the pity party. I'm sorry, but it's your fault you're alone.
If you are still in school, make friends there, if not - get a job and hang out with your colleagues. I highly doubt your mum would mind you leaving the house for work.
If there is REALLY no way for you to go out, let me introduce you to the Internet and social networks.
Also, if you honestly think no one in the world is as alone as you are, STFU and GTFO.
i usually hate to critisize a secret.... ill try my bestest not to but you may be alone that doesnt mean your the only one who feels alone. you may actually "be" alone but some feel alone. even when they have people who care about them. sometimes its not enough. and its sad to be alone like you :( i apologize but that doesnt mean theres no one else who feels the same way. thousands of people do. im sorry for my comments, they may not have been the nicest
Yes. You are obviously the loneliest person in the world. No one else who says they feel alone could possibly feel as alone as you do.
I'm sorry that things are crappy for you, but there are many people in the world who are alone "for real", not just you.